You're a Wallflower
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Today at a Glance:
Critical valuable feedback
Remediation steps to build your confidence
Multipliers - make everyone smarter around you
Rita Pierson explains why every kid needs a champion
Atomic accountability might help you
Asking for a promotion [Talk Track Template]
“You are a wallflower” said one of our senior execs to me.
Truth is, I needed to hear that.
He cared and wanted me to level up.
I have taken worst blows but this one hurt.
After accepting my get better medicine.
I was managing my team and we were hitting our targets.
Feedback in skip levels and employee engagement surveys were also good.
But, I was only worrying about my own backyard.
The exec wanted me to think more about others who could benefit and be a more a more global leader.
The value creation I was harvesting was siloed and I was missing a trick for my own growth and the teams around me.
I would join leadership meetings and not speak up.
It wasn’t that I was being selfish, I just didn’t feel confident speaking up or sharing ideas with a larger group.
I struggled with articulation or other limiting beliefs on what others may think.
Taking my get better medicine, 6 things that helped me Grow 🚀
1/ A Coach - challenged my BS and limiting beliefs. He would ask me direct questions about the reasons why (not using why) I didn’t contribute.
“I might not have anything of value, so I didn’t share.”
“I wasn’t sure I was 100% correct.”
“I couldn’t articulate my response correctly.”
“Your team are enjoying the good life, help me understand the reason you can not share those ideas or things that are working for you with others?”
“Who is 100% sure? I never am. What’s the reason you need to be 100% sure about something? What’s the worst that will happen?”
“What could you do to overcome this challenge so you can articulate your response correctly?”
I started to recognise those beliefs were not serving me and I needed new, more empowering ones.
2/ The Magic of Thinking Big by David Schwartz. In this book, David talks about the idea of confidence building vitamins. You have to take them daily. He encourages you to take your vitamins by engaging in behaviours such as speaking up in meetings and contributing to the group, this builds confidence and becomes your default activity and new reality.
3/ Discomfort - I took some discomfort challenges on as well. This was a game-changer. From jumping in at the dead end on an escalation to supporting the construction and delivery of a mentorship program to a large audience. Doing things that move you outside your comfort zone and support the growth of others will significantly benefit you and increase your overall impact and level of comfort on bigger stages.
4/ Action - more intentional with your action. Spotting trends or gaps that may impact other teams and communicating to those groups for awareness gets you recognised and prevents further problems. Beginning to think more like the CEO of a business where you’re more strategic, prevention-focused and helping everyone flourish.
5/ Articulation - getting a D in English Language may explain a few things but my vocabulary needed some work. So I studied Barron’s 1500-word list. In doing so I began to expand my word choice and could speak and articulate my thoughts with better and more inspiring language.
6/ Preparation - a good tip for new leaders is to prepare for EVERY meeting. Look at the agenda ahead of time, what do you want to raise, what questions do you have and what could you share with the group to provide value and make an impact. You have to be intentional about it. Spin up a document and write things down, it gets your mind thinking. By preparing and coming up with something of value, you’re more likely to speak up and help others.
Thanks for reading
Don’t wait for someone to provide critical feedback such as “You are a wallflower”. Go out and ask for some hard truths.
This week we challenge you to connect with 1 person and get feedback. Either your leader, a direct report or a colleague.
Ask them, “What one specific area do you think I could improve on?”
Resources Of The Week
Resource - Unsure how to ask for a Promotion? Own your value with this preparation resource and talk track. Grab a copy here.
Book - Multipliers by Liz Wiseman. A thought-provoking, accessible, and essential exploration of why some leaders ("Diminishers") drain capability and intelligence from their teams, while others ("Multipliers") amplify it to produce better results.
Ted Talk - Rita Pierson on every kid needs a champion. Rita calls to educators to believe in their students and actually connect with them on a real, human, personal level. “kids don’t learn from people they don’t like”.
Blog - Atomic Accountability by Rapitude. Interesting idea to maintain accountability by forcing yourself to take action as the other option is not worth considering.
Quote of the Week
"The more you speak up, the more you add to your confidence, and the easier it is to speak up next time. Speak up. It’s a confidnet building vitamin."- David Schwartz
Last week’s issue: Prevention better than Cure